Prom Night – The Ultimate Celebration for Our Daughters

0c557d42396fa7225eb3e181f5811d5fMoms, are you running from pillar- to- post looking for the perfect dress, shoes, a make-up artist, a hairstyle and all of the accessories that go along with your daughter’s prom?  Prom Night is the ultimate night for our beautiful daughters as they prepare for a fun night with their peers.  Fancy gowns, limos, make-up, hair, and all of the other accessories that go along with making our daughters look like a beautiful princess, a run-way model or “DIVA.”

Family and friends will gather to participate in a “prom send-off” as they are getting ready to walk the red carpet to their limo or transportation.   What is a prom send-off?  .  It is a flamboyant pre-event gathering many call “the send-off.”  According to an article from the Chicago Tribune, it is a ritual in the African-American community that now accompanies the prom.  Friends, family, community leaders and residents greet and celebrate teenagers on a red carpet just before couples depart.

On Monday, April 24, 2017 on “Moms Talk on Monday,” a few moms chimed in about plans for “prom night.”  Some of the concerns were- transportation to and from the prom, after prom events, alcohol consumption and deciding on an appropriate curfew.  One mom suggested UBER Black as an option for transportation to the prom.  UBER BLACK is an Uber service  driven by professional chauffeurs in luxury cars.  I will most definitely consider using this option especially for my daughter and her date.

After “prom” events, why wouldn’t they just call it night and come home, LOL?  It’s a tradition that after the prom, most will want to go out to eat, party, or stay out all night.  A few of the moms advised that they were aware of the after prom events but will have to get all of the details and logistics before they give their daughters the green light to attend.  Although I’ve been called the “helicopter mom” for trying to protect my daughter from this mean world, I wear my title with pride.  With all that’s going on with missing girls in our DMV area, human trafficking, and other crimes against our daughters, I’m not wavering even on prom night.  I always’ tell my daughter she will get it when she becomes a parent and has children.  I chimed in with the mom about the details for the after prom events, if it’s not thought out and I don’t have a warm and fuzzy about it, no green light for me.  I’m not concerned with being my daughter’s friend, even on prom night.

On our telecom, we also shared our concerns about the number of kids who are already consuming alcohol.  I will have the conversation with my daughter and I hope most parents will also address the consequences of drinking and driving.

The last topic on our agenda was the “curfew.” What is a reasonable curfew for “prom night.”  Some may say they are 18 years old now, as if they are grown -they are not in my opinion.  With my daughter’s prom being hosted almost an hour away, I’m looking at 3:00AM as her curfew.  Determining a reasonable curfew that mom, dad and daughter will agree upon is still being negotiated for most families.  I know each mom, dad, family and guardians have their own opinions and beliefs about curfews.  For me, I’m going with my gut feeling and with what feels right for me and my daughter.

Thank you to all of the moms who chimed in on “Moms Talk on Monday.”  Good conversation and great ideas.

We love our daughters.  #MotherDaughterInitiative  #PromNight

The Issues Surrounding “Contraception” for Our Daughters

Some of our daughters will be approaching 18 and going off to college this year, initiating the conversation about birth control is critical and difficult.  Mothers with daughters of all ages are having tough conversations about sex.  As a Christian mom, my daily prayer is that my daughter will remain abstinent and wait until marriage.  However, I will continue to keep the lines of communication open with my daughter where we have a honest dialog about her feelings about this subject “sex.”  Our daughters will sometimes look at our past situations and judge us and say “you didn’t wait until marriage.”  My response is always, “I wish I had waited.”

All moms, want the best for their daughters and with all of the lyrics, videos, and talk about sex via social media, television, music, we know its a topic of discussion with their peers.  The word “Sex” is in most of the lyrics, the act of sex is found in most reality shows and on television, and the pressure to have sex can be a challenge.

During the months of February and March, moms dialed into the Moms’ Talk On Monday teleconference to discuss the idea of contraception for our daughters.  Moms chimed in with their ideas about birth control.  We discussed the pill, condoms, IUD, the patch, etc.  While discussing these options some of the underlying questions were – what are our goals with providing contraception other than unwanted pregnancy, are we concerned about STDs, and the effects of contraception on their mental and physical health?  As some moms expressed that the pill may be the best solution for their daughters, we have to also stressed the use of condoms.

Dr. Scott Whitaker,  a board certified naturopathic doctor with over 20 years of experience in herbology, iridology, homeopathy, natural healing and detoxification joined us on (2) of our calls to educate the moms on the ideas of contraception, condom use, and the overall health of our daughters.
Dr. Whitaker also address issues our daughters experience i.e., menstrual cramps, acne, tattoos, and other health concerns.

(Click below for Dr. Whitaker’s Bio)

Dr. Whitaker recommended the following herbal remedies (Please consult with your primary doctor/physician before taking any of the herbal remedies):

Wild Yam– is often promoted as a “natural alterative” to estrogen therapy, so you will see it used for estrogen replacement therapy, vaginal dryness in older women, PMS (premenstrual syndrome), menstrual cramps, weak bones (osteoporosis), Wild yam does seem to have some estrogen-like activity, but it is not actually converted into estrogen in the body.

Vitex- Berry– is one of the most popular herbal remedies for PMS and cramps. In fact, one study published in the Journal of Women’s Health & Gender-Based Medicine found that after being treated with vitex for three menstrual cycles, 93 percent of patients reported a decrease in the number of PMS symptoms or a complete end of PMS complaints. (1) In addition to reducing unwanted premenstrual symptoms, it also treats some menopausal symptoms as well as hormonally induced acne. (2)

Cramp Bark– These days, the bark and root bark of this plant are still used to make medicine. As the name suggests, cramp bark is used for relieving cramps, including muscle spasmsmenstrual cramps, and cramps during pregnancy. Cramp bark is also used as a kidney stimulant for urinary conditions that involve pain or spasms.

Stay tuned to my Facebook page Mother Daughter Initiative as we are planning a health and wellness seminar for mothers and daughters this summer facilitated by Dr. Scott Whitaker.

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